do all engagement rings have to have a diamond? My fiance asked me what i wanted so he could pick the right one and i’ve decided i’m not really into diamonds. I was kinda wanting the stone to be my mother’s birthstone (an aquamarine) because i thought it would be neat to have instead of a white diamond. My mother passed away 2 years ago so i thought it would kinda be a lil more special….. is this weird?
An engagement ring can be whatever you want it to be! It’s your ring! I think personalizing your engagement ring and honoring your mother like that would be a beautiful thing to do, and not weird at all. Tell your fiance you’d rather have an aquamarine and not a diamond. Your ring will mean more to you that way. Congratulations!
September 28th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
i don’t think so. my co-worker has a ruby.
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September 28th, 2009 at 3:06 pm
There is no rule that an engagement ring has to be a diamond.. or that it even has to have a stone at all. Do what makes you happiest.
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September 28th, 2009 at 3:20 pm
absolutely not weird. i think that is a beautiful idea.
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September 28th, 2009 at 4:02 pm
Diamonds are "traditional" now, but they weren’t always. Till the 1930’s or so, diamonds were NOT high fashion.
My engagement ring has a 1K black sapphire, high mounted, with very small diamonds channel-set along the band, in a white-gold mounting.
Its all up to you and what YOUR personal tastes are. Not everyone likes diamonds – I don’t.
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September 28th, 2009 at 4:50 pm
An engagement ring can be whatever you want it to be! It’s your ring! I think personalizing your engagement ring and honoring your mother like that would be a beautiful thing to do, and not weird at all. Tell your fiance you’d rather have an aquamarine and not a diamond. Your ring will mean more to you that way. Congratulations!
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September 28th, 2009 at 5:37 pm
I think the most important part of the engagement ring, is when you look at it, it will bring a smile to your face, and a full happy feeling to your heart. Doesn’t matter if it has a three carat diamond or cost 25 cents out of a machine!
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September 28th, 2009 at 5:43 pm
why is it weird.. I think its a nice idea to have something remind you of your mom.. Just tell your boyfriend , ( well hint) the idea you have so that he can get it just how you want it!
Good Luck!
Bcn_mimosa from Barcelona, Spain
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September 28th, 2009 at 6:30 pm
That’s not weird at all! A diamond is traditional because it’s know at the hardest, most durable of stones symbolizing a solid marriage. Obviously, that theory is a bit antiquated. If you have the choice, choose whatever you like.
good luck!
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September 28th, 2009 at 7:13 pm
you dont necessarily have to have a diamond, its your ring, you get what you want, you have to wear it, hopefull for the rest of your life so get a ring that when you look at it day after day makes you smile and remember the wonderful commitment you have made! and good Luck!
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September 28th, 2009 at 7:55 pm
My engagement ring doesn’t even have a stone. It’s a sterling silver frog. When you look underneath, the frog is really a prince in disguise. It makes me smile every day.
Some women don’t even wear engagement rings. I once saw a personal wedding web site where the groom had gotten the bride a new computer instead.
So no, a diamond isn’t required. Since you don’t want one, ask for something that’s more meaningful to you. Not only is aquamarine very pretty, it’s got real meaning to you.
I think it’s a wonderful idea.
Best of luck and all joy to you and your guy!
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September 28th, 2009 at 8:40 pm
Not at all! Go for the aquamarine (thats my birthstone too!) besides if you get a good aquamarine it can be very light and almost look like a diamond.
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September 28th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
It is different, but different doesn’t mean bad. You ask for the type of ring that will make you happy.
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September 28th, 2009 at 9:39 pm
nope, do whatever you like. you are the one having to wear the ring forever. I like that idea.
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September 28th, 2009 at 9:45 pm
Sounds nice
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September 28th, 2009 at 9:52 pm
Not at all. Just make sure that you choose a gemstone similar to hardness like a diamond so it will last forever like you want it to.
I want my engagement ring to be tanzanite or sapphire. I also like citrine but I know he doesn’t and won’t get me that.
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September 28th, 2009 at 10:37 pm
Your engagement ring can be whatever the two of you want it to be. My niece has a plain silver knot ring and LOVES it. It’s more the meaning that’s behind it, what it means to YOU.
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September 28th, 2009 at 11:10 pm
Nothing wrong with not having a diamond. However, though an aquamarine is nice, maybe your engagement ring shouldn’t be the piece of jewellery you have in memory of your mom. Your engagement ring should represent only happiness.
Maybe get yourself another piece of jewellery as a memento about your mom – Limoges has a great line of jewellery with lockets, etc. I was just looking at them online myself this morning…
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September 28th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Society says "Diamonds are forever" that is why they are preferred in this instance. Have him get the aquamarine and a few tiny diamonds next to it. I think as long as he aims to please you…how can it be wrong? You should get whatever it is your heart desires.
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September 28th, 2009 at 11:41 pm
You can get any ring you want as your engagement ring. I got a blue topaz ring because this is my favorite stone, and I don’t wear diamonds. I guess the question is, are you getting the ring for yourself, or for others to look at? If it’s for yourself, then you should pick anything that is meaningful to you – not necessarily to everyone else. But if it’s for everyone else, then go with the diamond, as it is expected and recognizable.
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September 29th, 2009 at 12:00 am
It’s not weird at all. In fact, engagement rings used to be birth stones until large diamond mines were found in Africa in the late 1800s. When diamonds got to be relatively more affordable, it became fashionable to have a diamond rather than a different stone. The diamond industry really took off in the 1930s as a marketing campaign. So, there is nothing sacred about a diamond. Have whatever stone you wish.
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September 29th, 2009 at 12:37 am
I personally love aquamarines as it is my birthstone as well. I’d look for a ring that perhaps has an aquamarine as the centerpiece and diamond accents. Also, go for white gold… it really sets of the subtle blue in the stone. I have an aquamarine birthstone ring in white gold and a princess cut… It’s my favorite piece of jewelry!
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September 29th, 2009 at 12:44 am
Of course not. My engagement ring was an emerald, my birth stone. It’s yours, you have to wear it, so it can be whatever you want!
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September 29th, 2009 at 12:49 am
The engagement ring should be something you really like. If its a ruby, saphire, amethyst whatever it may be as long as you like it enough to wear it the rest of your life.
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September 29th, 2009 at 1:11 am
Not weird at all. There is a small percentage of women who don’t get diamonds. There is no "rule" that all engagement rings have to be diamond. Any stone you like in a ring on your left ring finger will work. I love the idea of your Mom’s birthstone, I think that is a great way of honoring her.
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September 29th, 2009 at 1:55 am
It’s wonderful
My friend just got a sapphire which ended up looking very antique-ish and vintage and it’s the envy of everyone she meets. I think aquamarine would be absolutely beautiful, and it would be special every time you look at it.
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September 29th, 2009 at 2:04 am
It can be anything you want. Usually you have one large center stone, and some people have side stones.
I do think you should separate your mother from your engagement ring and get the aquamarine for a right hand ring. Your engagement ring should be about you and your husband to be.
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September 29th, 2009 at 2:23 am
An engagement ring can be any stone you choose.
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September 29th, 2009 at 3:10 am
No, there’s no rule that says engagement rings have to have diamonds. But they ARE supposed to have special meaning and that appears to be the direction you’re taking.
I have seen some aquamarines set in white gold, platinum and even an inexpensive sterling Silver that were absolutely fabulous. There are all kinds of really cool settings from the ornate to modern for you to choose from.
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September 29th, 2009 at 3:25 am
It can be anything you want! If you want an aquamarine, go for it. I think it would be very special and beautiful.
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September 29th, 2009 at 3:54 am
You can have whatever you want. Many couples don’t even have an engagement ring. My suggestion wouldn’t be for the engagement ring to remind you of your mother. Get another ring for that. The ring should be about you and your groom. Often times women quit wearing the engagement ring for a variety of reasons. Mine has to do with my work, because engagement rings tear gloves.
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